If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5
Singles, welcome to Heart2Heart devotional. Today we shall conclude this series by looking at the remaining two ways to How do you discern and distinguish between infatuation and compatibility and also what the non-negotiables and the variables are in marriage.
6. INVITE THE INPUT OF OTHERS
When it comes to matters of the heart, it is nearly impossible to be objective. Beguilement begets blindness. For this reason, ask trusted family and friends what they notice about the relationship. Proverbs 12:15 tells us, “The way of fools seems right to them but the wise listen to advice.”
What do the people who know you best notice about the person you are dating and plan to marry? Don’t say you do not care. What do they notice that is different or the same about you when you are together?
Are there any red flags? As you reach out to a variety of people who care about you, you will likely notice the emergence of certain themes in their observations. Sometimes it may be difficult to receive their input, other times it may validate your own intuition.
While the final decision of marriage ultimately rests on you and your partner, seeking advice with a humble heart can provide immense clarity in the decision making process. “For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers” (Proverbs 11:14).
7. EXPERIMENT WITH DIFFERENT SCENARIOS
When a single person “leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh,” (Genesis 2:24) teamwork becomes an integral element of this new union’s thriving.
In order to gauge your potential for operating as a team, make an intentional effort while dating to spend time together in various situations.
Volunteer together at a church department if possible, play games with a group of friends, navigate a trail together on a hike, or attend an event where you are seated with people that neither of you have met before.
When entering into these new situations, don’t look for perfect communication or an absence of conflict, but instead consider how you can work with each other’s different personalities.
Soon you will discover how each of you deals with situations of stress, competition, and vulnerability both individually and as a team. And as you discover more about yourselves and grow in these areas, keep in mind Ruth Bell Graham’s helpful insight:
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”
As you step toward the exciting yet risky process of finding a spouse, remember the One who is with and for you through this journey from singlehood to marriage: “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11).
Know that He cares for you with a deeper love than any other earthly mate ever could, and His faithfulness remains sure unto the end of the age and the marriage supper of the Lamb to His bride, the Church.
While you long for and enjoy earthly intimacy, remember that it is a mere shadow of that ultimate union for which you most eagerly wait. God bless you
CONFESSION OF THE DAY: I am breaking forth on every side in Jesus name
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PRAYER OF THE DAY: Lord, guide me by your spirit in the path of your will and purpose for me in my marital life and deliver me from every marital failure tomorrow in Jesus name