September 27, 2020

CULTIVATING VULNERABILITY IN MARRIAGE

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Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” – Genesis 2:18

You are not made to be alone and vulnerable. All the way back at the start of creation, God saw man was in need of a companion, helper, friend, and one to love, but we resist dependence because of how vulnerable it makes us feel.

Not only that, our pride also stops us from being fully open with one another. The word “helper” from this text describes an equal who provides vital strength to their partner.

Man and woman as a team were made as equal partners who together create a balanced partnership, each needing what the other possesses.

To be vulnerable means you are exposed and no one likes that. You think making yourself known will make you look susceptible to harm. For most of us, being fully known and unprotected from emotional harm is terrifying.

By adulthood, we’ve learned too many times and in too many ways the value of guarding ourselves against possible emotional scars from others. We get married and are supposed to somehow unlearn our emotional survival instincts.

It’s time to fully let down your guard and let another person in. It doesn’t happen naturally. You have to choose to push past pride, fear, and the instinct to protect yourself in order to be vulnerable together.

Thankfully, God helps us achieve this kind of open love. He knows that without His help, fear paralyzes us from experiencing vulnerable love.

Romans 5:5 says, “And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”

The Holy Spirit empowers us to be able to love others with God’s love. 1 John 4 tells us that God’s perfect love casts out all fear in our lives. It’s time to be naked in marriage and not be ashamed. It’s to let your spouse see you for who you really are. As long as you keep hiding your weaknesses from your spouse, you will keep hurting and destroying yourself. Tomorrow, I will show you three ways to cultivate vulnerability in your marriage. God bless you

CONFESSION OF TH DAY: I will lend to nations. I will not borrow. Amen

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PRAYER OF THE DAY: Lord, give me the grace to be naked and vulnerable with my spouse and not be ashamed in Jesus Name

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