September 27, 2020


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Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. – Matthew 7:3-5

Recently, a couple welcomed a 3-month-old baby while already raising their three young kids. As a result of the new arrival, the husband and wife have been sleep-deprived so they could take care of the little baby.

Here is what the wife told me: One morning while I was on my way to the gym, I started sketching out in my mind how I was going to preach my husband into a better attitude. I was going to tell him that he needed to be cheerful at 3 am when one of us has to get up and give this new baby a bottle. He needed to let all the new stress, demands, and emotions just roll off his back without expressing frustration.

This was my great plan until that still small voice whispered three little words, “What about you? Those words stopped me in my tracks. My perfectly crafted rant to my husband, which likely would disastrously ended in an all-out argument, would have to wait. I realized for the first time in a long time that I was a hypocrite.

Couples, how many times do we badger our spouses over the things we think they are doing wrong, all while overlooking our own failures? Clearly, this woman was very guilty of this. Proverbs 21:2 says all our ways seem right to ourselves.

I think that’s probably why God designed marriage in the first place. On your own you tend to get more and more immune to your own sin. The silver lining of the hard moments in your marriage is that these are your chances to grow!

The next time you are tempted to bring your spouses failures to their attention, first take a moment and think through the part you play in the situation. A better approach is working on yourself before trying to reform your partner.

This way God grows in you and grace is shown to your spouses through you when they do miss the mark. That’s how God designed our homes to run. You will never be a better judge over your spouse till you first judge yourself.

And also, for every speck of sawdust you see in your spouses’ eye, there is a log in your own eye. Until you first remove the log in your own eye, you will not see clearly to remove it from your spouses’ eye. God bless you

CONFESSION OF THE DAY: I am seated with Christ in the heavenly places far above all principalities and powers. Amen

DISCUSSION OF THE DAY: Join me daily on Facebook from 6:50am – 7am (10mins Nigerian time) for “I PROPHESY”. It’s a time to command and program your day. Click HERE to FOLLOW and LIKE the page to get notified when the meeting starts.

PRAYER OF THE DAY: Lord, help me to first remove the log in my own eye father than focusing on the speck in my spouses’ eye. Teach me to first judge myself before I ever think of judging others in Jesus name.

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  • I am seated with Christ in the heavenly places far above all principalities and powers. Amen

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