Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling. – Proverbs 20:3
In marriage, you have no rights and it’s dangerous to insist on the rights you think you have if you want your marriage to last. One way God wants you to love your spouse is to give up your right.
Practical love goes past respect. It’s actually holding them in high esteem. God wants you to love your spouse by avoiding a fight with them even if they are totally wrong. Let me read today’s scripture to you again:
“Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling.”
I know that conflict between couples in marriage leads to intimacy but this verse isn’t talking about conflict. It’s talking about arguing over nothing important. This is what God wants you to avoid.
When you truly consider your spouse as more important than yourself, you will not want to engage in unnecessary arguments with them. No sensible man ever engages, unprepared, in a fencing match of words with a woman
All you have to do is remember Jesus and how there were times he didn’t even respond, even though he was right. He did not open his mouth to argue or talk back. Imitate this side of Jesus. This is love. Love has no rights.
Take me take you back to the wedding vows you swore before your families and friends, and also witnessed by God. You made a promise to your spouse, but as a follow of Christ, you also made those vows to the Lord.
Here is my final word to you: you can choose not to quarrel or yield to the flesh and be ruled by it through arguments that lead you nowhere. You can give up your right to be right or hold unto them.
When you think it’s so hard to give up your rights to be right, here is what God says to you, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and that includes giving up my right to be right. Philippians 4:13. God bless you.