For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, ” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife Mal 2:16
Welcome to Heart2Heart devotional for singles and married. If you and your partner stay intimately connected to God, your marriage will reflect that intimacy. Divorce doesn’t have to happen. Recognize these lies that influence marriages and counteract them with biblical truth.
Today’s teaching is a continuation of where we stopped yesterday on lies that could lead to divorce. It’s my prayer that God will give you understanding so you can divorce proof your marriage.
LIE #6: ONE PARTNER IS SUPERIOR TO THE OTHER. No partner is superior to the other. Being the head doesn’t mean superiority as a man. God’s intention for marriage is gender equality. On two occasions, God revealed His will on earth concerning gender–in the Garden and in the life of Christ. You will find that no matter how you negotiate the relationship, you need mutual submission, respect, honor, empowerment and empathy to succeed in the marriage.
LIE #7: I CAN’T CHANGE–THIS IS WHO I AM: TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT. Hear me: An unwillingness to change is rooted in rebellion. It’s doing things your way versus God’s. To say you can’t change obviates the entire Christian experience of salvation and change of heart. This requires a willingness to look at your behavior and work towards being more like Christ. If both spouses in marriage would do this regularly, divorce would be less prevalent. Change doesn’t happen when you don’t embrace it. You can change but it requires desire, obedience and Holy Spirit driven power.
LIE #8: THERE’S BEEN AN AFFAIR. WE NEED TO DIVORCE. Affairs are serious and damaging but they are not beyond repair if both spouses agree to try. There must be a commitment to cut off the affair, a time of repentance, forgiveness and a rebuilding of the relationship. The covenant has been broken but it can be restored if a couple chooses to do so. It’s not easy but possible. Don’t let an affair end your marriage.
LIE #9: IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT I DO: GOD WILL FORGIVE ME. God will forgive you if you repent but it does matter what you do next. Your behavior has natural, as well as spiritual consequences so don’t cheapen God’s grace.
LIE #10: MY MARRIAGE IS HOPELESS. If you’ve given up, the future looks hopeless, you’ve grown apart, can’t manage conflict, made a mistake or whatever the problem, believe that God can work when you can’t. He can change hearts, do miracles and work in the most difficult circumstances. He is the God of the possible. Draw close to Him, intercede for your marriage, do battle with your true enemy (Satan) and expect God to work on your behalf. God bless you
CONFESSION OF THE DAY: I am willing and obedient. Therefore, I will eat the good of the land
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PRAYER OF THE DAY: Thank God for today’s teaching. Ask God for grace to do what you have learnt today. Bind every plan of Satan against your marriage now in Jesus name. Pray more as you are led right now.
I Remain Your Friend,
Dr Andy Kwakpovwe
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