Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband. (KJV) Ephesians 5:33
Welcome to Hear2Heart devotional. Yesterday I told you that a man’s need for respect and affirmation, especially from his woman, is so hard-wired and so critical that three out of four men would rather feel unloved than disrespected or inadequate. Here are more things you can do to a man to make him feel loved and deeply respected.
2. SERVE HIM: “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:45)
Serving your husband might seem like a throwback to the 50s when stay-at-home moms wore aprons and pearls, but the concept is timeless and biblical. And the way you respect your husband in front of your children profoundly impacts whether or not they will respect him too.
This may not seem vital when your children are young, but seeds of disrespect in childhood bear fruit in adolescence and beyond. Serving your husband can be simple.
When you prepare a meal, serve his plate before the children and treat him like you would an honored guest, you are already serving him. As you prioritize your day, make sure you put your husband’s needs at or near the top of your list.
Imagine how affirming it would feel for him to know his hard work is appreciated and valued by the whole family. Serving your husband will can make your husband feel loved and respected.
3. RESIST CORRECTING HIM IN PUBLIC: “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.” (Colossians 3:12)
As simple as this sounds, keeping our mouth shut when our husband is telling a story, offering an opinion, or relaying information can go a long way toward helping him feel loved and respected.
No one enjoys being interrupted or corrected in public, especially on insignificant details. When you do so, it embarrasses him and makes you look controlling and like a know-it-all woman and that’s bad for you
If the error is important, it’s certainly okay to say something, but do so respectfully and in private if possible. Instead of, “John, you weren’t listening. You got everything wrong,” you can use words like, “I thought that, too, but then I discovered…” or “You may not realize this, but the leaders’ meeting is scheduled for before the service, not after.”
Using these types of phrases takes on humility as you remember that there are things you don’t know or realize sometimes, either, and it just takes gentle guidance to help you get back on track. And keep in mind that our tone of voice can make the difference between our husband feeling belittled by us, or helped.
As women, it’s very tempting to want to take control of everything around you–including everything your husband is saying. But limiting the times you correct your husband in public can make him feel loved and respected. To be continued. God bless you
CONFESSION OF THE DAY: My Days Of Pity Are Over In Jesus Name
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PRAYER OF THE DAY: Lord, Let your blessing continually rest upon my marriage. Give me grace to love and respect my spouse like you want me to in Jesus name.