He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6 (ESV)
Welcome to Heart2Heart devotional for couples. Marriage isn’t always romance and roses. Sometimes, it’s sickness and pain. Other times, it’s arguments, fights and slammed doors. It’s no mistake that traditional wedding vows contain the expression “for better or for worse”. Sometimes we recite that mechanically without camping out on what it means.
When you get married, you promise “for better or for worse.” The “for better” is the part we like to focus on. We don’t like to think that “for worse” might mean raised voices and cancer and wayward children and struggling bank accounts and chronic illness and emotional baggage.
We would have preferred to stick and be there in the “for better,” when the savings account is padded, and the vacation is planned, and the kids are successful and both spouses actually want to have sex at the same time.
Jesus said in Matthew 19 that when a couple is married, they leave their father and mother, and hold to each other. They become one flesh. He takes it even further and instructs that what God joined together, no man should separate.
That’s pretty clear—don’t separate. Even if you’re arguing all the time, even if you’re frustrated, even if she can’t cook and he just wants to play video games and your kids are manipulating you against each other.
Even if the doctor calls with the results you don’t want, and you owe more on your taxes than you expected and the roof is leaking. Don’t separate!
HEAR ME: Not that there aren’t legit allowances for divorce outlined in Scripture, such as sexual unfaithfulness, but in today’s society, you tend to see more couples bailing in the “for worse” without Biblical reasoning.
Couples declare they just ‘fell out of love” or “got too married too young and grew apart” or as you see in court documents, they simply have “irreconcilable differences”. This is all the “for worse” that the wedding vows speak of.
If you’re struggling in your marriage today and entertaining thoughts of divorce, take a step back. Re-read your wedding vows. Read Matthew 19. Remind yourself that marriage is difficult, and you’re not alone.
It’s not just you and your husband going through the hard times, it’s all couples. Everyone goes through the season of “for worse” but more than likely, a season of “for better” is right around the corner if you stick it out.
Pray. Ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen you. Draw closer to the Lord, and in doing so, you’ll draw closer to your spouse. Godly marriages aren’t easy.
But they’re a beautiful testament to the glory of God and the bride of Christ, the church. My friend, if you seek Him, God will sustain you and your marriage—for better or for worse. God bless you
CONFESSION OF THE DAY: This is my week of week. Everything shall work for my peace in Jesus name
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PRAYER OF THE DAY: Father, I receive grace to survive every storm targetted against my marriage in Jesus name. By your grace, i declare that my marriage will survive every hard and trying times in Jesus name, Amen.
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