But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5
THE PROBLEM-SOLVING TEST (Communication Test): One day Elliot said to Betty, “After we are married, I hope you won’t mind leaving your church and joining mine.” Betty didn’t want to leave her church but she was silent. She was secretly hoping that Elliot would agree to leave his church and join hers.
However, she didn’t want to discuss this problem with him yet. “Better to wait until after the wedding,” she said to herself. If we discuss it now, we will probably disagree and then he won’t want to marry me.
Sarah has been engaged to Sam for about two years now. In six months from now they will be married. But for the past two years, Sarah had nursed a secret thought, ”I know Sam has been cheating on me. I can’t confront me now because if i do, he will walk away from. Am almost 30years now and i cannot stand losing Sam. But after the wedding, then he will see my true color. I will deal with him for cheating on me all throughout dating period’‘, she said to herself.
You want to laugh? Go ahead.
If you are in a relationship and you are nursing a secret fear about your mate, it’s good you find a convenient time and talk it over with him or her. Someone said, ”Courtship will reveal some things but marriage will reveal the rest”.
In as much as you can, you must master the art of problem solving, not problem multiplying. Misunderstanding between you and your spouse will be many after you marry. Not being able to handle relational conflict can dissolve a relationship with great potentials.
No relationship should veer into marriage until you and your friend can sit down together to talk calmly, reason and be able to find solutions to potential problems. As for Betty and Sarah, it’s best they confront their mate now than wait till after marriage. Problem solving test is one of the way to test if your love for each other is the real thing. God bless you.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY: I like who I am becoming by faith in Jesus name
DISCUSSION OF THE DAY: Do all you can to be part of the daily ongoing midnight prayers on Facebook all through the month of February. Simply search for “Heart2Heart with Dr Andy” on Facebook to join. It starts sharp 12am – 12:30am
PRAYER OF THE DAY: Ask for wisdom and skill for problem solving. Pray for you mate and your relationship that the hand of God will rest upon it.