And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Gen 2:25
Recently I received a message from a woman struggling with a very common issue in modern marriages. She said,
“My husband always has his cell phone with him all the time. Sometimes, he even sleeps with it in his pocket. He never wants me looking at it. I’m afraid he’s communicating with other women or hiding something else, but I don’t want to snoop or make things awkward by demanding to look at his phone. He gets so defensive when I mention it. I’m heartbroken, but I feel stuck, and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do to make the situation better. Should I check his phone? I’m afraid of what I would find! Am I being overly sensitive or is he the one who is out of bounds?”
Hear me: The way a couple handles their cell phones reveals a great deal about the overall health of their marriage. Let me explain: When a spouse is defensive or secretive about his/her phone, it’s usually a symptom of some kind of unhealthy behavior. It’s not always infidelity, though inappropriate interactions with the opposite sex are certainly common among people who keep passwords from their spouse.
When you don’t give your spouse full access to your phone, you’re essentially saying, “I’m not giving you full access to myself. There are secrets I don’t want to tell you, behaviors I don’t want to reveal to you or activities I don’t want to share with you.” You might pridefully believe that you have the right to keep secrets from your spouse, but any form of deception or secrecy in a marriage is toxic.
Catch this: The healthiest couples value transparency over personal privacy. When a spouse operates in secrecy, it creates distrust and disunity in the marriage and this goes against the very definition of marriage.
Catch this again: Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust. Receive grace to be honest and open with yourselves. God bless you.
The Bible tells us that the first married couples were naked and there was no shame. This simple verse in Genesis reveals the power of a “Naked Marriage.” It’s a bond of complete transparency and trust physically, emotionally and spiritually with nothing to hide from each other. It’s the kind of intimacy we all long for but it takes courage and vulnerability to achieve it.
CONFESS THIS ALOUD: My spouse and I are naked and not ashamed. We walk in transparency towards one another with no form of deception in Jesus name.
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PRAYERS: Thank God for the word you have received today. I command any power out to destroy your marriage to fall apart now in Jesus name. Pray more as you are led right now